relationships

If you’re like me, there are lots of questions that race through your mind when you prepare to go out on a date. Do I look polished enough? Am I going to click with this person? Did we pick the right venue to go out to? And then there’s the one question always gnawing at the back of my skull about my autism: can I be myself?

Dynamics like mine require a lot of honesty, and often speaking honestly can make you feel vulnerable, but showing vulnerability to a partner is a good way to build trust and intimacy. At the same time, you learn a lot about yourself as you’re forced to ask yourself tough questions and to think carefully about what you want from a relationship and why - in turn, this makes you appreciate the reasons you want to be with your partner(s), and what it is about being with them that makes you happy.

First off, you aren’t alone in being turned off by “hardcore BDSM” or in feeling like you aren’t really seeing a wider range of nuanced depictions of dominant/submissive relationships with which you might identify more easily. It’s true that there’s a mainstream image of d/s dynamics that many…

In my experience, disclosure is an ongoing conversation and there is no single “correct” way to do it, but there are ways our partners can be stronger allies.

Suddenly, a person you’ve been regularly communicating with is M.I.A.

In a world where few people are equipped with the skills to talk about weight in healthy, sensitive, supportive ways, it can be tough to talk about weight gain.

Human beings are not on a strict timetable to do all the same things at the same time. This is just as true of dating like anything else.

Two smart, insightful and autistic people who like talking about relationships walk into an interview…

Sex educator and therapist Dr. Lexx Brown-James talks talks about her line of work, how Covid-19 is rampaging peoples’ emotions, and how the work of POC sex educators continues to be devalued, stolen and co-opted.

Hi Parvati, It’s great to hear that you’re trying to be a good ally, and doing some of the self-examination and learning that comes with that! Since you helpfully broke your question down into three parts, I’ll go through them one by one. 1. Is gender really only a social construct? The short answer…