No, it is not. Sounds to me like your girlfriend has misunderstood how fertility cycles work. While cycles vary between people who menstruate – which is part of why the “calendar method” isn’t a good one – a vast majority of those people will be most fertile mid-cycle, between around day ten and…
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- Susie Tang
College is a big change in a person’s life. It’s a change that is far more stressful than many would even realize. When you leave for college, your living arrangements change, you’re eating new food and you’ve got a hectic schedule to keep. All these stressors can cause your period to be late. If…
- Heather Corinna
Is it possible to have sex with someone while they’re asleep? Sure it is. Is it likely they won’t wake up at all? Not so much. Is it likely that person would wake up and think it was awesome someone was engaging them in sex without their permission in advance? Probably not. More to the point, is it…
- Heather Corinna
You put yourself in sexual relationships where you feel comfortable clearly communicating your desires to a partner. In other words, getting your wants and needs met when it comes to any kind of sex isn’t about pointing your bottom at whatever the right angle is for a partner to somehow psychically…
- Heather Corinna
It really depends, because there are a few possibilities, and it could be any one or all of them. Most commonly, that’d just be a person with a vagina’s usual vaginal discharges. At nearly any given time, we have vaginal discharges and cervical mucus which are part of our monthly fertility cycle…
- Heather Corinna
Before I say anything else, let me just say that I’m so sorry you had to have this experience. Sadly, very few women who have had even the smallest measure of sexual experience will go through life without at least one person responding like this, but it’s particularly painful when the person saying…
- Heather Corinna
A person’s height has no relationship to the size of their genitals – or, in your case, the length of the vaginal canal. The vaginal canal in any person isn’t even one static size, anyway: it changes. When we’re less aroused, the vaginal walls are tighter, and the back of the vagina and cervix are…
- Heather Corinna
What an awesome friend you are! Obviously, everyone who is waiting for sex, or a certain type of sex, can have different reasons for waiting. Too, a person’s reasons for waiting might change over time, or if a person originally had wanted to wait, they may not want to all that much at a certain…
- Heather Corinna
Sounds like you’re in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you’re in a really good headspace to work it out, so let’s see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it’s enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn’t been very enjoyable…
- Heather Corinna
I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. However, please understand that that bad experience did not likely cause permanent changes to your vulva or vagina. While certainly, if you were tense or underlubricated, that could have caused a tear to the tissue of the vaginal corona, which may cause mild…