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No, there is not. The only thing you can do is to ask your partner – giving you’re willing to be forthright and share the same information about yourself – and take her word for it. If you’re asking this because of concerns about sexually transmitted infections, understand that knowing how many…

Short answer: YES. You NEVER reuse a condom. NEVER. Even if you wash it really thoroughly, you cannot use it again. (If, by chance, by “it” you mean his penis, washing the penis isn’t a method of birth control either, and will not prevent pregnancy.) And if you take the step of having sex a second…

Sounds to me like you have some internal conflict here…or not. What I’m really hearing you say here is that you’re just not really feeling it when it comes to sex yet. Not alone, not with your partner. I’m hearing you say that you’re more interested in non-sexual physical affection right now –…

Most likely, it’s just your cervix. The cervix is the end of your uterus, or the beginning, depending on how you look at it, and the cervix and cervical canal jut into the back of the vagina. When you’re not highly aroused (arousal usually will pull the cervix further back), you can usually feel it…

There are a couple of common reasons why someone might hate being a girl: you might hate it for one of them, or you might hate it for all of them. Regardless, you get to feel however you feel and there’s nothing patently abnormal or wrong about being uncomfortable with your own sex or your gender…

So long as you’re in good general and sexual health, there’s no reason your genitals WOULD taste bad. Too, giving you oral sex shouldn’t be something you even need to worry about being gross for your boyfriend: if you’re not pressuring him to do so, and he’s willingly and with enjoyment engaging in…

Has your girlfriend ever had a pelvic exam? If no, or if not lately, then she should visit her doctor and get checked out. That’s the only way she’ll figure out what that lump is. The best I could suggest is it may be her cervix. That’s the lower tip of the uterus, and it feels like a rounded bump…

Anything that is in the vaginal canal after sex either dribbles out, gets expelled or gets reabsorbed by the body. Semen clots and becomes sticky within minutes of being ejaculated. But if you wait half an hour or so, the semen liquefies again. Then it is free to dribble out the vagina (whatever…

First and foremost: Pornography is not real. Always remember that. Life doesn’t happen the way it does in the movies. Likewise, sex doesn’t happen the way it does in porn. Porn actors are actors. Is there anything wrong with the way you ejaculate? No. The force of a shot of semen depends on the…

Hi Help! This is a good question and I’ve got a good answer. A couple of good ones actually. First, no, nobody’s supposed to shave their pubic hair any more than they’re supposed wear the hair on their head only one special way. Can you shave if you want to? Of course! Do you have to shave if you…

Honestly? Cisgender women sleeping together have no fewer sexual options than women sleeping with men or men sleeping with men do. You can have all kinds of labial, vaginal and clitoral stimulus; you can do manual, oral, vaginal or anal sex, mutual masturbation, massage, frottage, breast play…

I absolutely promise you that you did not become pregnant from kissing and clothed heavy petting. I promise. So, breathe. You know your periods aren’t regular, so not having one this month, especially when you have PCOS, likely has nothing to do with pregnancy. But if you’re seriously freaking out…

I sent this in response to the New York Times piece published last week regarding abstinence-only education. Alas, I didn’t hear back from them, so I offer it up here instead. I feel it’s important to get as much informed commentary out there on this issue as possible right now, especially…

Since there are so many different pill brands, so much information to sort through, and since with adolescents and/or young adults information on some aspects can vary slightly, and we get so many questions about the pill, it seems it’s high time to give the most basic rundown I can speaking to…

Pregnancy is not likely to occur for most people who menstruate who have sex during their periods. But because ovulation schedules can vary – and be particularly erratic for younger people – it’s never smart to have unprotected sex at any time you do not WANT to become pregnant, even during your…

You’ve been having unprotected sex. That means you have been at risk of pregnancy and well as sexually transmitted infections. The pregnancy risk is moderate to high, depending on your fertility, and your partner’s sexual habits (as in, if he has ejaculated recently before unprotected intercourse…

Hey, Jamie. First things first: there are all of two or three countries in the world where it’s even lawful for you to have intercourse at your age, and in most places, many other kinds of sex. If you’re writing in from the states, there is no state in which you’re at the age of consent. However you…

What it most likely is is just normal vaginal discharge. We have a good piece which outlines what is or is not normal here – Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions – but I’m happy to put it into more context for you here. Basically, throughout most or all of your fertility cycle –…

When we wipe after toileting, it’s pretty unusual for us to even directly touch our vulva, let alone stick our fingers into our vaginas and touch our cervixes. And really? Truly? About the only way you could become pregnant from sperm on your hands was if you had a lot of it, perfectly fresh, and…

Our sexual fantasies really don’t limit our actual, out-of-our-heads sexual experiences. Sexual fantasy and sexual reality are separate. Fantasy is influenced by reality, and reality can be influenced by fantasy if we choose, but they still are two very different things. For many people, much of…

It sounds like you’re not confused at all to me: in fact, I hear you being really clear. You know he wants one thing, and you want something else. You know you don’t want to do something he wants to do. In short, you know that the two of you want different things and that as it stands, there’s no…

Hey Anon: I’m sorry about the loss of your Mom. Often Dads really can do just as good a job in terms of talking about these things, so if he’s open to it, you might want to consider talking to him. But obviously, what’s important is that you have someone to talk to you feel comfortable talking to…

Shaun: if not reaching orgasm with a partner during intercourse meant a person was still a virgin, there would be an AWFUL lot of cis women in their forties who have been having sex for two decades but were still virgins. Virginity isn’t some medical state or condition, or something you can get some…

Having a woman, or any person with a vulva, on top during vaginal intercourse is no more or less pleasurable for all people with penises than the missionary position is for all girls. Or than it is for some guys. Or some girls. Or than any other position is for any given person of any given gender…

Maybelline, I don’t mean to sound like your Mom, but I have to say that based on your last post and this one, I’m not so sure engaging in receptive anal sex is the right thing for you to be doing right now. I suggested that to you for a few reasons before, and I’m going to suggest it again now…