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You know, there are good reasons why we distinguish fantasy from reality. If your boyfriend not only expects that both of you CAN do everything he sees in pornography, but also that you will both – and not just because one of you does – even WANT to, then he needs a reality check. You don’t need…

Honestly, people need some from of preventative reproductive health care. Can you live without it? Some people can, but that is a gamble, and if you look at people in nations without any, you can get an idea for how that really just isn’t often healthy. Too, once you become sexually active it is…

While it’s common for women – especially young women – to feel pain or discomfort with sex, it’s not “normal” in that it has to happen or there isn’t an alternative. Sex is not supposed to hurt: it’s supposed to feel very good. If you’re bleeding after sex every time, and it’s also not feeling…

Increases in pregnancy and birth rates to any group, including teens, are about more than just what sort of sex education people are getting. By all means, a lack of accessible, approachable and accurate comprehensive sex education is always going to create problems with unwanted pregnancy. It always has. So, sound, accurate sexuality education is a vital starting point, but what else should we be addressing?

ANY direct genital contact that is unprotected ALWAYS puts you at a potential risk of pregnancy (when your partner has the genitals that could co-create one) and sexually transmitted infections. The vulva is a wet place, and sexual fluids like ejaculate and pre-ejaculate are also just that, fluid…

Nothing in the world is wrong with you. We explain this a lot here, but I’ll say it again: the majority of women do NOT reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. You’re not the only one asking, either. Sadly, more women than not have just never been informed as to how their sexual anatomy…

Before we get into anything else, I want to debunk a few things you’ve said here that don’t have any real basis. He wants more sex than me. Big surprise. He’s a man. Men don’t automatically want more sex than women. Not all men and all women, not even most men and most women. Mind, we can say that…

You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay. Remember that orgasm is primarily an event that occurs in, and is about, the nervous system. Yes, most people have most of their orgasms due to stimulation that is about or includes genital stimulus. But not all people, and again, for most, it’s not JUST…

Not only can you not stop your vagina and vulva from lubricating, that is what HAPPENS to people with vaginas when we become sexually aroused. It’s supposed to, ideally, because if we’re not lubricated, vulval and vaginal sex – as well as some kinds of clitoral stimulation – doesn’t feel very good…

When you don’t know the answer to something or can’t find it, it’s never, ever stupid to ask a question. What would be stupid is NOT to ask! Too, women – and plenty of people of other genders – are very often taught little to nothing about their sexual response systems and cycles, so not knowing…

Your boyfriend needs to understand and accept that it’s very unlikely he never pre-ejaculates if he does fully ejaculate, too. In other words, if, at his age, he’s reached the stage of puberty where he can ejaculate, then he also does pre-ejaculate. Pre-ejaculate is how the penis “prepares” itself…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from Who are rapists, and where did rape even come from?) Sometimes, someone being raped will clearly say no and will NOT clearly say yes. They might say no verbally, with words, they might say no by crying, they might…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from How can men know if someone is giving consent or not?) What more can we do to stop rape? There is a lot more all of us can do to help disengage our rape culture beyond not raping someone else. Since again, most…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from What is Rape & What Is It Like to Be Raped?) The vast majority of people who rape are and have always been male. That does not mean that most men are rapists. While many women will be raped, the majority will not…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from Why Do Men Need to Know About Rape?) Rape is when one person wants and pursues a sexual act on, to or inside another person who does not want to participate, and who does not fully and freely consent to take part…

(Continued from How You Guys – That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape) Rape is often framed as about women, but it’s not. Something done TO us really isn’t about us. It’s the things that we choose to do which are about us, which is why it’s such an error for rape to be framed as a women’s issue…

Rape is often framed as about women, but it’s not. Something done TO us really isn’t about us. It’s the things that we choose to do which are about us, which is why it’s such an error for rape to be framed as a women’s issue or about women: it’s almost always a men’s issue and really about men. Find out what men need to know about rape and rapists, what you can do to be sure you have consent with sex, other ways to help with rape prevention, and why your help is so important.

The instructions on every packet of condoms I have ever seen (including condoms in countries outside the United States) clearly state that once the man has ejaculated, he needs to withdraw and dispose of the condom promptly. Proper withdrawal means you grip the ring firmly, pull out completely and…

Susie explains what a rim job (analingus) actually is and what to be aware of when considering it.

This is an unusual question, and I’m not sure if you intended to ask this literally, but let’s see… There is no set number – minimum or maximum – of times you can have sex before you get pregnant. A person with the capacity to get pregnant can have sex and get pregnant the first time they do so…

You know, as a culture we’ve somehow developed an awfully funny idea of what is “sex” and what isn’t “sex” that seems pretty darn arbitrary. Think about it, manual sex, oral sex, anal sex…all those things have the word sex in them. So quite honestly, from a sexual health and public health…

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Let’s start with the biggest question: is it wrong to have sex with someone you’re not in a capital-R or romantic relationship? You know, all this wrong and right stuff is arbitrary and very personal. I’m sure there are some things for me in my sex and general life that are right as rain for me, but…

I tend to think the best way of saying I love you is…well, saying “I love you.” But if you’re asking if sex can express love? Sure it can. It doesn’t always, but it absolutely always has that potential. People being mutually invested in each other’s comfort and pleasure, each other’s sexual growth…

People with vaginas do not always bleed during or after sex. But when they do bleed during or after sex and it’s not because of menses, then it’s due to some injury in the vagina or vulva. As well, some sexually transmitted infections – Chlamydia is a biggie for this – can cause bleeding with or…