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I’m glad you’ve found things on the website that have been useful for you! Being educated about your body and about safer sex practices goes a long way toward making sex both safer and more enjoyable when we are ready for it and do want to be engaged in it. Keep in mind here that there is no one…

Let’s toss out the idea of being “tight” because you haven’t done anything with anybody else. Sex of any sort (manual sex, intercourse, or whatever else) doesn’t permanently change the dimensions of one’s vagina. So thinking that people who haven’t engaged in vaginal or manual sex are tighter than…

You know, I always feel for heterosexual or bisexual folks when they clearly have paid attention to this stuff, done the reading or just talked to women, put it all together and have that “Whoah!” moment about this issue. With so many people reared to think that male-female vaginal intercourse is…

You know, it actually isn’t “cute” to not understand your own body. It’s pretty tragic, and for the person who doesn’t understand, it doesn’t tend to feel cute. It can even feel pretty scary, especially if and when you’re doing things – or someone else is – with that anatomy you can’t or don’t…

You will need to tell new partners about a sexually transmitted infection you have or have had, particularly one like human papillomavirus (HPV) where condoms reduce the risks of transmission, but not as well as they do for other kinds of infections. Putting someone knowingly at risk of an infection…

Really, all I needed to do was to get to your second paragraph, and then read your last few sentences to know that a) this guy isn’t good news and b) you really don’t want to be in this relationship, which I’d say is a very good thing. Can you imagine your almost-thirty-year-old self making a deal…

No, it is not. Sounds to me like your girlfriend has misunderstood how fertility cycles work. While cycles vary between people who menstruate – which is part of why the “calendar method” isn’t a good one – a vast majority of those people will be most fertile mid-cycle, between around day ten and…

If you say nothing, it’s unlikely he’ll know. The bodies of people with vaginas really don’t change when they have any kind of sex, unless they become pregnant or contract an infection. Vaginal sex can wear a hymen or partial hymen away more, but so can and do a lot of other things, and at your age…

1. The hormones in birth control pills prevent the uterus from building up its lining (endometrium) as thick as it would be under a normal fertile cycle. This effect is mainly from the progesterone in the pills. Progesterone’s function in the body is to maintain the endometrium in stasis, so that it…

College is a big change in a person’s life. It’s a change that is far more stressful than many would even realize. When you leave for college, your living arrangements change, you’re eating new food and you’ve got a hectic schedule to keep. All these stressors can cause your period to be late. If…

If you feel like – and you seem to be very clearly saying you do – that YOU need to hold off on sex with someone new, for YOU, that’s really all you need to know. You’re the only person waiting needs to be okay with. If it’s not okay with anyone else, too bad for them. Some not-as-yet boyfriend…

I don’t know of anyone who would think that they needed to guard their drink from someone they thought of as a best friend. I sure wouldn’t. There’s just no sound reason, at all, for you to think that for some reason, you should have thought to do something that pretty much no one on earth would…

Hey there, Gabi. Have a deep breath, and let it out good and slow: it is going to be okay. I want to make something clear from the get-go. YOU are the one who gets the final say here. Not your boyfriend, but also not your Mom, either. Making a choice about a pregnancy is a big deal, it’s something…

Is it possible to have sex with someone while they’re asleep? Sure it is. Is it likely they won’t wake up at all? Not so much. Is it likely that person would wake up and think it was awesome someone was engaging them in sex without their permission in advance? Probably not. More to the point, is it…

Absolutely! Oral sex poses the potential for STI transmission for both the giver and the receiver. So it’s wise to make sure you’re using a condom (or a dental dam for oral sex on a woman) each time. One of my favorite examples of the risks associated with this is that of herpes. Many many many…

Whether or not you’re going to believe me, I’ll be plain with you anyway. Your lack of confidence and low self-esteem are ALWAYS going to be a WAY bigger impediment to “getting the attention,” and more importantly, to having great relationships with romantic partners AND friends…and most…

When you and a partner have no clothing on, and direct genital-to-genital contact, please understand that it isn’t dry sex anymore. The “dry” in dry sex is pretty critical: it means that sex was had in which there was no chance of any fluid contact or exchange. If you’ve got a naked penis rubbing…

Withdrawal is NOT an effective birth control method: just ask my parents, and their parents, and…you get the picture. I also have a fantastic nephew who I adore, both of whose parents swear (and have no reason to lie, really) that they practiced withdrawal PERFECTLY. Apparently not. That’s the…

If he refuses to change his mind, then this isn’t someone to marry, or even stay with anymore. Legally and emotionally tying yourself to someone who doesn’t give you a voice both in the kind of sex you have and when you become pregnant is legally and emotionally tying yourself to a kind of sexual…

Here are the possibilities, in order of most likely to least: He WAS with someone else over this last year. I know that’s certainly the least easy possibility to look at, but if he really tested all clear before the last round of tests within the amount of time you two have been together, and you…

This kind of thing is not an issue with your genitals changing in any way. It has more to do with your mind. One big thing that has long been the conundrum of married and long-term couples everywhere when it comes to sex is the fact that our libidos really do tend to thrive on changing things up…

An erection happens when certain structures on your body stiffen due to either increased blood flow, or muscular flexing. But usually, people tend to talk about the penis when they are talking about erection. When a person with a penis is stimulated tactilely (by touch) or mentally (such as with…

It’s really tough to say. Ultimately, the only person who can know for sure if they’ve reached orgasm is the person who is having one. For sure, often people’s expectations of orgasm can be off-base, especially if they’re primarily based on fictional depictions of orgasm. While sometimes orgasm can…

For all the peeps who aren’t familiar with the term ED, we’re talking about Erectile Dysfunction or impotence. And, yes, it’s normal and happens to a lot of people with penises. I strongly suggest you see a urologist regarding your ED, especially for a person your age. You limited erection can be…

Let’s do what we can to work this out, okay? I know it’s tough – especially if you’re also dealing with trauma in your family – and it’s scary, but it really is workable. I don’t know what you mean when you say you’re always careful, but there are currently – sparing men or women who get…