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Really, the why here isn’t that important. What’s important is the “is.” In other words, you’re doing things you’re saying you really don’t want to do. WHY you’re doing them, or what might have caused you to have a hard time with making the choices you want to isn’t as important as the fact THAT…

Do you want to have a better sexual experience this time, as well as a relationship of real quality – in which someone loves, likes and cares for you just as you ARE, not based on a persona – with your new boyfriend? If you do, then it’s really important to be honest. When we’re dishonest with…

Humans are mostly made of water, and vaginal fluid is most certainly water-based. This means it can evaporate under normal earth conditions. This is normal. More normal than that is the fact that even when woman are sexually aroused, they may not make enough vaginal lubrication to make prolonged…

Hi Miguel, it looks like you’re fighting some serious peer pressure. Despite all of our progress towards gender equality and rights, we still have some pretty wacked double-standards in our society. There’s the double-standard that says that women who have lots of sex are whores, and men who abstain…

My first question in this case is, did your health care provider look into your menstrual difficulties or did they just slap you on the pill and assume that would solve the problem? If nobody really looked into your problem, then I’d suggest that you consider heading back to your provider (or a…

When you start taking the pill, you’re adding lots of extra hormones into your system and they are essentially forcing your body into a new sort of cycle. It’s not like the cycle you have when you aren’t on the pill, because you no longer ovulate. Typically, you begin taking the pill around the time…

Wearing tampons when you aren’t menstruating isn’t a good idea in terms of risks of TSS and uncomfortable vaginal dryness, but doing so won’t have any sort of permanent effects on the vagina. Same goes with having intercourse: the vagina is a muscle, and use of it doesn’t cause atrophy – that doesn…

It’s important to understand that rape is only sex for the person doing the raping. And really, it’s not even that, since partnered sex is something we do WITH someone, not TO someone, or have done TO us. A person being raped does not have control over the situation, isn’t consenting and IS…

In this post, all I’ve heard about is what your boyfriend likes and wants. You haven’t said a thing about what YOU like and YOU want, and that concerns me. So, I really hope that any sex you’re having is just as much about what you want, what you need, and what you enjoy. To have a healthy sexual…

If sperm went into a vagina and the person with the vagina is not on any form of birth control, then YES, they could get pregnant. Even if they’re on top, and some semen trickles out, chances are just enough sperm cells could make their way up into their reproductive tract to result in a pregnancy…

It sounds like he’s ramming into your cervix. A lot of people with vaginas really don’t like that ‘cause it can be painful. Look at this diagram from Innies & Outies and notice how the vagina ends at the tip of the cervix. The vagina is only about 4 or 5 inches deep, so if a penis is longer than…

I read about this site in a book that I’m currently reading. I thought I’d check it out for myself. I think the content of your site is terrible. You think that you give teens all the information that they need so they can make informed decisions about their sex life. What bologna. The only decision that teens need to make is to not have sex until they are married. Certainly we all need to be informed about our physical health, our bodies, and how to have a healthy sexual relationship. But what about talking to teens about abstinence?

Congress is considering repealing the military’s discriminatory “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. At present the bill (The Military Readiness Enhancement Act (H.R. 1246)) is in committee with 136 cosponsors. In the past fourteen years Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell has done a great deal of harm, not only to…

Hi Marie, your boyfriend doesn’t have anything to worry about. You might not even believe this but the man who invented corn flakes, Dr. Harvey Kellogg, as well as the guy who invented Graham crackers, Dr. Sylvester Graham, and most experts of their day, believed that any man who ejaculated “as…

U.S. President Bush has just appointed a visible critic and opponent of contraception to head Title X, our family planning program whose purpose is to provide access to contraception and other family planning services. In a 2000 Weekly Standard article, Orr railed against requiring health insurance…

Here’s the thing: when a person with a vagina is sexually aroused, in general, yheir vagina self-lubricates (becomes more wet), their clitoris and parts of the vulva become more erect, and the vaginal opening and vaginal canal relax and expand (become looser). So, to ask to be wet AND “tight” is a…

It’s pretty difficult when we let our self-worth get tied up in whether or not we “satisfy” a partner (especially based on criteria like orgasm). Unfortunately, the only thing you can do is explain what happened to your partner and be as honest as you can (which it sounds like you have been). What…

If it has been less than 120 hours since her risk, the best thing – least expensive, least invasive, easiest – for her to do would be to obtain emergency contraception. EC can work up to 120 hours after the fact to prevent pregnancy. if she is over 18, she can get it over the counter at any…

So long as you take your pills as directed and on time, with the exception of a few medications or herbs that can interact with the pill, you’re as covered as you get. We get questions like this a lot, so in the interest of making sure you and everyone else understand your pill as best you can, let…

It sure is. If it hasn’t happened to you yet, yourself – with your boyfriend or when you masturbate alone – it probably will at some point. Orgasm is a full body event that gets our circulation pumping and our nervous system all fired up. After orgasm, in the resolution phase of the sexual…

Sex doesn’t have to be (and for most people to feel satisfied, really shouldn’t be) only or solely about intercourse, and neither a smaller penis nor being of size means that sex has to be, or will be, unsatisfying for either partner. My good friend and colleague Hanne Blank literally wrote the book…

I get the feeling you (and your friend) are misunderstanding some things about your anatomy. Here is our article on the female genital anatomy, and you may find keeping the window open so you can see the illustrations helpful while I try and explain things better for you. For starters, there isn’t…

If your period is only five days late, it’d be pretty unusual, even if you had become pregnant, for you to be having symptoms this soon. Plus, the symptoms you’re describing are also common PMS symptoms, as you said. Since the condom was spermicidal and there wasn’t a full ejaculation, your…

Sounds like it’s just time to mix it up a bit. There isn’t a lot we can say about sexuality that is generally applicable to everyone – save that we’re all awfully diverse – but one thing we do know is that habit or routines tend to be a buzzkill for a lot of people when it comes to sex. So, if we…

Sperm are hearty, but they’re not that hearty! As long as your hands were dry when you had contact with your girlfriend, you’ve got nothing to worry about from this situation. Dry ejaculate or pre-ejaculate poses no risk. I’m not quite sure what you mean by saying you “poked” your girlfriend, but I…